Tyra

I awoke from a nap apparently answering the questions from her quiz in my sleep, and I was seriously brassed off. So I rewound the show to the beginning and decided to answer her "cheating" quiz here...I'll be honest, so let's go:

1. Do you think all men cheat?
No. I think most men do, but I don't think all do. There can be a few reasons for not cheating, ranging from belief in the traditional form of relationships to being too afraid. Note that my final (perhaps) reason is because he doesn't want to.

2. Do you think all women cheat?
No. I would suppose that fewer women than men cheat. My reason for this is that the repercussions are much more real for women than men. Who catches the illnesses, generally? Women. Do gets pregnant? Women. (This is assuming a heterosexual cheat.)

3. Would you give some permission to cheat?
Giving permission negates the term "cheat". You cannot cheat on someone who's given you their permission, assuming honesty in the relationship. I have only my own experience on which to rely here - myHim cannot cheat on me unless he lies to me about it, and vice versa. Cheating inplies dishonesty, and I believe dishonesty is what pulls people apart. Trust is much more important than fidelity.

4. Is sexting someoe other thn your mate cheating?
I hope not. I don't think so. Do I love the idea of my partner talking sexy to another person? No. But I do it, and as much as I want to be a hypocrite, I cannot. I'd prefer not to know about this, however. I don't consider it cheating, consider it a part of flirting, and I think flirting with other people enhances one's own relationship.

5. Is it cheating if you kiss someone other than your mate?
Depends on the intent. A kiss, for fun or for a few seconds of connection, is fine. A kiss as a prelude to something else is a bit different to me. Call me generation Pretty Woman, but I can live with a whole lot of touching much more than I can live with making out.

6. Is it cheating if you flirt with someone else besides your mate?
NO!!! I believe that the goal of flirting between two parties is for both parties to feel better than they did before having that interaction. In truth, I get a kick out of watching myHim use his game, and I know he loves watching me at mine. Maybe that's the thing, though - we're mostly open about such things. I can admit to twinges of jealousy when he tells me a story, and he occasionally gets jealous of me. OK - flirting can be dangerous, so know your goal before you get into it. Or at least know where your loyalties lie.

7. Is a date with someone else besides your mate cheating?
I've been a fantastic wingwoman for myHim and gotten him dates. He has not done the same for me, but he knows that I date other people. My rule in this is the hierarchy: myHim at the top, and others in various positions. But no-one ever rivals him. So is it cheating? Not if we're honest.

8. Have you ever caught your mate in bed with someone else?
Nope.

9. Have you ever found incriminating photos in your mate's belongings?
No, but then again, I do not snoop. If I know any truth at all, it's this: Don't go digging into someone else's belongings. You'll find what you never wanted to know. And it'll be in a form you never expected. Why look for trouble?

10. Have you ever caught your mate having an online relationship?
No. MyHim doesn't have internet.

11. Have you ever found someone else's underwear in your mater's belongings?
No, but I left one of my bras at his place recently, and I cannot wait to get it back. It's my best-fitting bra!

12. Have you ever kissed someone else while you were in a relationship?
Yes. Probably every relationship I've ever had. I'm not good at the one-person-forever paradigm.

13. Have you ever had sex with someone else outside your relationship?
Please see #12 above.

14. Have you ever been caught cheating?
In the act? No. But caught? Sure. You can't act the way I do and expect to never get caught. I hate that I hurt other people, though.

15. Have you ever had sex with someone who is married?
Not to my knowledge. I cannot imagine that a man who wants to fuck me is going to tell me all about his precious wife, though. I have kissed a man I knew to be married though.